Posted by Kind Girl on April 27, 2004, at 9:40:56
In reply to Re: new poster, posted by lifeworthliving on April 25, 2004, at 21:26:40
Hi and welcome!
Thanks for sharing and I am sorry registering was hard. You asked about posting here or posting there...I tend to just post and read here. When I first discovered forums I was at them all the time...all over the place, and I found myself writing more on the forums and less and less in my journal so I stopped.I do come here and read a lot but don't write as much as I would like. I have acrylic nails and typing is hard (what a lame excuse!!) but it is true!!! But I loved reading about you and your t.
You said that your t gets to see you the way nobody does (something like that) and I agree in my situation too. I told me t. that she doesn't see me in the store (lucky you!!!)...she doesn't see how I chew my food and if that bugs her...she just tells me how great I am when she doesn't really "know" me. She said it is true she doesn't see me in social circles, but that she feels what she sees in session is the "real" me that nobody really else sees. Interesting.
What she sees in session is this helpless, sad, crying, hysterical baby....and I hate that she sees that. She tells me all the time how precious my tears are and how precious I am...your T. sounds wonderful.
Oh yeah, be careful in what you read. I gave a copy of that book (sorry Dr Bob if I am not posting this right!!) to my T. and we both read it. I told her the part about "the approximate relationship" really stuck with me. She didn't like that section and said our relationship was NOT approximate, but "different." She said transference is good...but not to confuse transference with what is really going on and that is our relationship IS real, she IS real, she really DOES care...our love and care for one another is REAL and that is what matters. She told me to be careful in what I read into that and to make sure to check it out with her because all therapists are different. Just a thought.
Welcome again and I am looking forward to reading more from you!
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