Posted by fallsfall on April 28, 2004, at 20:48:28
In reply to Two Ts/**trigger**, posted by terrics on April 28, 2004, at 15:56:45
Terrics,
Going to lunch with your old therapist sounds awfully risky to me.
I know that you love her. But it sounds like your rational thinking is saying that your DBT therapist would be better for you. Can you make a choice on who will be your *therapist*?
If you choose your DBT therapist, then she can help you figure out what to do about your old therapist.
Your old therapist seems to be crossing lots of boundaries - free sessions, lunch. What is she trying to accomplish? Why is she doing this? She clearly isn't going to leave her husband and marry you. So how do you see this relationship developing? I guess I'm having a hard time seeing how it could be good for you.
What would your old therapist do if you told her that you have a new therapist and that even though you love her, you can't see her anymore? I don't know if *you* could do that, but what do you think *her* reaction would be?
It is excruciatingly hard to walk away from someone you love. But you need to take care of yourself and make decisions (even if they are hard) that are in your best interest.
I wish you luck in sorting this out.
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