Posted by lonelygirl on May 1, 2004, at 15:06:18
In reply to DATING insecurities neediness, posted by devon00 on April 30, 2004, at 23:48:01
Gosh, I wish I could give you some advice on this, but I'm afraid I am even worse off in the dating scene. I have never actually been on a date, or been asked out.
I can relate to the issues you mentioned, though, and possibly at an even more extreme level. As for affection, for example, I am shy about even showing any romantic interest whatsoever. I have had bad experiences just about every time I have revealed that I had a crush on a guy (i.e., the guys are horrified and disgusted to find out that *I* like them), so now, I simply keep it a secret. And since I have never had a relationship, I have no idea about the "rules" of dating, and I fear that even if the underworld froze over and someone asked me out, I would be totally lost as to the social norms related to dating.
Anyway, sorry I'm a loser and can't really give you any advice, except maybe to realize that just the fact that you even get asked out, and that guys show interest in you at all, shows that they see some good qualities in you enough that they want to try to get to know you.
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