Posted by Aphrodite on June 25, 2004, at 6:14:33
In reply to The RonCo Inside-The-Eggshell-Egg-Scrambler, posted by Racer on June 24, 2004, at 15:51:09
One of the most helpful insights I received here was when I vented my frustration that I had been in therapy SIX WHOLE MONTHS, and I wasn't getting any where near my true feelings. I was reassured that it takes at least that long to learn to know your therapist and to trust him or her. I think that is so true -- there are people who have been in my life for years I don't open up to. So, I took the leap to talk about my feelings and I did so very detached and clincally. I too wondered the value of it. I learned there is indeed value because in yesterday's session, the emotions flooded me, and I didn't have to say why. I know I could not have gotten the words out in the midst of the pain I felt. So, a lot of our session was us sitting together quietly, my crying a little, and he could narrate what I was feeling because he had the information. He was saying, "I feel a heaviness around you, like every breath is painful." He then said some reasons why based on the "clinical report" I'd given him. So, it was very supporting and comforting and I could just experience the emotion without having to say much. At the end, I apologized for not talking, and he reassured me that my wounded side just needed me to come in and let him feel the enormity of the situation and that was just as vital as talking.
It really does sound like you're off to a good start, but I understand the urgency of wanting to get from A to B quickly when you are in so much pain.
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