Posted by Dinah on July 17, 2004, at 12:10:28
In reply to Transference - another try, posted by vwoolf on July 17, 2004, at 9:31:34
Well, I didn't actually say you should stay with your current therapist. :) Perhaps there is some therapist out there who is a nice happy medium.
It makes a *huge* difference in my eyes that you aren't attracted to or likely to fall in love with your prospective therapist. If it's "just" a paternal tranference, that's something that can be worked on in therapy. But you need to be honest with your potential therapist, because a fair number of therapists don't want to wade in deep transference waters - in my experience M.D.'s particularly.
If you do decide to dive into this, and he's agreeable, you're probably in for quite a ride. I see my therapist as my therapist/mommy. And while I think the transference part of our relationship has been well under control for some time, it took quite a while and quite a bit of distress on both our parts to get there. I can only imagine that if romantic transference were added in I would have *never* made it to the other side. It helped *a lot* that my therapist is very laid back and was willing to work on his own issues that my transference brought up.
Looking back, if I'd have known then what I know now, I'd have to think long and hard and given my viewpoint at the time (shut off emotionally) I probably wouldn't have done it. Now, as I look back, I'm very glad I did do it. On the other hand, if he had known that this simple CBT therapy for OCD would have turned into what it turned into, I don't think he would have taken me on.
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