Posted by thewrite1 on August 16, 2004, at 23:11:33
In reply to Boundaries (may trigger), posted by lucy stone on August 14, 2004, at 15:56:52
> He would never encourage me to add an extra session, even if I were in great distress.
There have been times when I was dealing with some really hard stuff my T asked me to come in for an extra session. I wasn't open to it because I was concerned about developing a dependency. Well, that happened anyway, but she doesn't ask about extra sessions anymore. It hasn't happened, but if I felt I needed one, I'd ask and she would try to make time for that.
> He would never call to check on me, even if I had had a very difficult session or was in obvious distress.
My T would never just call to check on me. There's been numerous times when I left and I knew she was concerned, but she's never called. Once I called her after a rough session and she was like, "oh, I was going to call you." I don't believe that she was because it wouldn't be like her, so I don't know why she said that unless she was just trying to ease my mind about calling.
> He would never volunteers any personal information about himself.
I used to be very curious about my T and would ask her questions. I was careful because I didn't want to make her uncomfortable, but then one day I asked her something and it really blew up in my face. She misunderstood what I was trying to say and it left me feeling like she thought I was trying to take advantage of her or something. I haven't really asked her anything since then. Lately she has talked about herself some. I tend to just take what she puts out there and forget about the rest.
> He very, very seldom initiates the conversation in a session, he waits for me to start.She always does this, even if I don't say anything. If there's something she thinks is important, she'll bring it up session to session, but that's only happened like 3 or 4 times in 3 years.
My T is always really good about calling me back if I call her, though I really don't do it that often. She's really good with scheduling. There's been a couple of times when I couldn't get to her office that she's agreed to do phone sessions with me instead.
Some of the boundaries really bug me, but I know that's because I want to be more to her than I ever will be.
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