Posted by tinydancer on August 18, 2004, at 12:55:47
In reply to Birthday gift for T? OK or no?, posted by shrinking violet on August 17, 2004, at 10:36:39
My assessment is that it is OK. It should be alright to give a mug as an expression of your gratitude.
I've been with my T for almost a year, and I have given him one gift (a fairly expensive one), which led to a discussion about gifts in general: I'm a gift giver and hate not being able to give him gifts, and when my birthday rolled around, he even admitted he'd wanted to get me a gift, but that shouldn't be what our relationship is defined by. He and I basically have established that he would rather I didn't spend my money buying any gifts for him. As such, I gave him a short letter of thanks I handwrote on his birthday, even though it was awfully hard to respect his wishes.
It makes no difference whether it is handmade or not, I don't think: the principle is in accepting a "gift" from a client and all T's have a stance on it, although I think most T's can accept "tokens". (Flowers, books, small things).
I think you should go ahead and get the mug, prefacing it with an explanation that you understand if she can't accept it, but that you would be pleased if she would!
I really think its going to go well....Keep us posted!
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