Posted by Dinah on August 30, 2004, at 19:43:52
In reply to Male or female -- does it matter?, posted by Aphrodite on August 30, 2004, at 18:01:56
I suspect it's no coincidence that my therapist is male, although I didn't set out for it to be that way. But part of the way therapy works for me is that he makes me feel safe, and I think that may be partly a function of his gender. For me anyway.
But the mental health professionals I have most destested have also been men. Abrasive offensive men. And I would have liked the EMDR woman therapist fine if she hadn't made an unfortunate remark. So maybe it's just more of the mesh than it is the gender. A woman would have to be strong enough to inspire trust, and a man would have to be soft enough to inspire trust. So an Alan Alda type man would be ideal for me?
I never have any problem talking about sex. Well, not about sex in general. And the stuff I do have trouble talking about has to do with me, not his gender, and would be the same no matter who he was. I don't really see him as *that* kind of man.
But that's just me.
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