Posted by crushedout on August 31, 2004, at 16:55:55
In reply to Re: Aargh I'm in pain again » crushedout, posted by Dinah on August 28, 2004, at 13:35:58
Right. Excellent points, of course. Especially about focusing on the positive. Funny that you use the abusive spouse analogy. Not funny haha but funny remarkable. I don't think it's entirely inappropriate. And me saying that is either a sign of progress or a sign that my boyfriend has successfully brainwashed me at least partially. :)
(He thinks my T is a total disaster of a T. And I don't think he would be averse to referring to her as "abusive," although that may seem a bit strong even to him. I'll have to ask him.)
> Progress is rarely a straight line. Taking steps forward and then back sounds perfectly normal and nothing to worry about. I think I heard statistics on the average number of times a woman left an abusive spouse before she left for good. I don't recall the number, but it was definitely more than one.
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> Think about how far you *have* come.
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