Posted by gardenergirl on September 3, 2004, at 0:30:37
In reply to Re: How do you *do* therapy? » shrinking violet, posted by thewrite1 on September 2, 2004, at 23:49:55
I think thewrite1 is correct, it often does get easier in time. As far as how do you "do" therapy...my T just asks me to talk about whatever I am thinking. In my last session, we talked about how there is something I've never told him and didn't really want to tell him. He never pressured me at all about what it was, and in fact reassured me that I was doing fine because I was telling him my thoughts about why I didn't want to tell him and why I brought it up in the first place. This actually led to some really valuable stuff.
So maybe you can give yourself permission to hang onto all the bad stuff inside for awhile longer, and instead, talk to her about what you are feeling when you find you can't talk. What do you feel in your body? What are you worried about happening if you do? What do you anticipate her reaction might be? Etc. I think this is just as important, if not more important, because this is what's there for you now. And working thru this may help you to feel safe enough to then talk more about what's inside deeper.
Good luck sweetie.
gg
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