Posted by crushedout on September 15, 2004, at 18:52:33
In reply to Re: I'm a broken record ****TRIGGER**** » crushedout, posted by lookdownfish on September 14, 2004, at 16:33:18
Wow, ldf, that's an interesting thought. I wonder if it's true. It's hard to know since it's unconscious (I'm sure she didn't consciously mean to hurt me also). Maybe it's a good idea to talk about it with her.I think what hurt even more than getting the email was when I told my boyfriend (who's a therapist) about it and he was like, "So what?" And I said, "Well, it's upsetting, being reminded that she has this family. Even though I think it was unintentional, it feels like she's rubbing my face in it." And he was like, "I don't understand what the big deal is. She has a family and believe me, she loves them more than she loves you." I was like, "Thanks for filling me in. I had no idea." Hmph. That made it worse. (Let's just demonize my boyfriend now so I can start idealizing my T again, ok?)
> Is it because things in your life aren't going so well and you're more vulnerable?
I think maybe, partly. My boyfriend and I have kind of been fighting a lot (see, e.g., above).
Thank you so much for your empathy ldf.
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