Posted by Skittles on October 1, 2004, at 22:37:32
In reply to Re: Mystery solved, I suppose » tryingtobewise, posted by Dinah on September 30, 2004, at 23:01:52
This idea of "growing up" in the therapy experience has really got me thinking about why I keep my T at arms length. I've figured out that I'm afraid to let myself get attached because I really never experienced the natural progression of growing up and moving on to other things becuase I WANTED to. As a kid, I had a terrible home life, so I was running as fast as I could to get out of there. And the few adults that I did have who were safe places (what my T would be if I let her do it) were ripped away, so to speak, before I had another place to find security. So, I don't want to get attached because I don't know what healthy growing up is like and I don't trust that it really works.
Clearly, you are already attached, but do you think the reason this growing up is so hard could be that no one gave you the chance to do it the healthy way when you were a child?
It's always so much easier to go back to what we know (even though we aren't really happy with it) than to move forward with something new. Why can't it just be the other way around?!
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