Posted by bell_75 on November 1, 2004, at 0:50:13
In reply to What your T does when you cry?, posted by Skittles on October 25, 2004, at 22:31:15
I understand what you mean about holding back and how their can be akwardness.
I found with my therapist that when I cried he took a really comforting stand just by letting me cry as much as I needed to and whenever I apologized and called myself a cry baby he told me that he'd be more worried if I didn't. This was because I was crying over some pretty terrible stuff and if i could talk about it and not get upset by it then maybe I'd have a problem with expressing my feeling and I'd be supressing them which isn't healthy.
One thing I have learnt from therapy/my therapist is that crying is part of the healing process. You've got to feel the hurt and deal with it in your own way in order to let it go, thats what I think.
In regards to what my T did when I cried, well he did watch me and wait for me to be ready to talk again which made me feel really akward and vunerable and sometimes he'd say something that would make me laugh and most of the times he'd offer me a tissue. One time he didnt have a kleenex box in the room so he ran to the office next to his and got one from there for me :D and he truely did RUN heheh.
Although I feel a sense of nakedness and vulnerability crying in front of T there was also the comfort that I knew he wasn't judging me and that he had empathy for the reasons i was crying and validated my feelings.
I think all T's are a godsend because of the work they do and the way they do it so well.
:) Good luck.
-Bell
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