Posted by shrinking violet on November 28, 2004, at 21:19:40
In reply to Re: want to know/don't want to know » thewrite1, posted by underthecs on November 28, 2004, at 13:24:31
I think some T's probably selectively use things from their own lives to help illustrate something to their client (make them feel less alone with something, etc). Can you think of a valid reason that your T would have shared this with you?
My T tells me a lot of stuff about herself. For some reason, though, it feels very natural to me. Do I react to it? Yes, sometimes. In fact last session she told me that something frightened her the week prior, and even though part of me wanted to know what it was, more of me felt badly that she was afraid and I wished that I could have helped her. It's funny too because sometimes she'll try to be somewhat vague like that, and then the next time she brings it up she'll end up telling me what the thing was to begin with (for example, I've been speaking with her on the phone this weekend, and yesterday she said that she "had somewhere to go" this afternoon and would probably call me later on. Then this morning she calls earlier than she said she would and left a message on my machine and ended up telling me where she needed to go). Again, though, I don't react much to what she tells me in terms of feeling like it crossed a boundary or something, because I never feel that way. In fact, I treasure and value the personal things my T trusts me with. But that's just me. :-/
If it makes you feel that "weird" you should talk to your T about it.
Good luck.
SV
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