Posted by messadivoce on December 1, 2004, at 1:42:00
In reply to About griping and grumbling... picture this..., posted by 64bowtie on December 1, 2004, at 1:05:27
I don't know that your post is appropriate for a board discussing psychotherapy, but since we're here I'm going to attempt to tie my response into a therapeutic context.
I'm guessing you're a guy because guys often want to find a solution to a problem NOW. However, most women (and many men!) process things (especially traumatic events) through crying, raging, mourning and acknowledging the loss. Hopefully then we can move onto better things and a more fulfilling life, having grieved our losses fully.
My therapist became increasingly beloved to me because he gave me permission to hurt--something I have never been allowed to do. My depression was "anger turned inward" because I did not have the capibilities or the people to turn to for help.
The "grumbling" person in your story is lucky to have a manager who actually cares about the problem instead of brushing them off or threatening their job security!! If only life were that simple, that squeaky clean....
So in conclusion, let me say that the most healing part of therapy for me was not the "solution." It was the tolerance of my pain--yes--my complaints.
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