Posted by Pfinstegg on December 28, 2004, at 17:32:54
In reply to Re: the ongoing saga of T1 » cubic_me, posted by alexandra_k on December 28, 2004, at 14:14:34
I felt badly to learn of those rejecting experiences from two therapists. You seem to have all the things you need to work really well in therapy: brains, motivation, high personal goals,a good heart, common sense and insight into your self and your situation.
I think the problem is with the therapists: it's very difficult to find a good-enough therapist when you have serious trauma-related issues. Many of them are not trained to treat those. I had several rejecting situations with therapists until I found the wonderful one I have now. I think he is kind of a rarity- an analyst who specializes in treating childhood sexual/physical abuse. It's actually what he prefers doing! It has helped my confidence so much to know I'm not going to be terminated or rejected for speaking honestly about my problems.(I still do worry about that, but know it won't happen.) I have also realized that abuse victims have such low expectations about themselves and their relationships with others that they are hardly even aware of the talents and gifts they possess.
When you get to where you are choosing a new therapist, you could be a really careful and thoughtful consumer- there really are csa specialists out there to be found. You absolutely do not need any more rejecting or incompetent therapists
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