Posted by Tabitha on December 31, 2004, at 14:16:39
In reply to Pining and grieving, posted by crushedout on December 31, 2004, at 9:53:28
Yes, unfortunately you do have to go through this phase. It's a very brave thing to do. By facing these overwhelming feelings, you're finally interrupting the cycle, instead of chasing the temporary relief that keeps you going round and round and ultimately causes more pain.
When I was last going through this stuff, I got one bit of relief. My adult self knew that the feelings were out of proportion to their object-- so I tried to just listen to them on their own. At one point I got clear that these were old feelings, a child's feelings. It wasn't clear what events or what age or what parent they were about, but it was clear they were coming from the past. After that it was a bit easier, and the impulse to chase the present object really lessened.
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