Posted by mair on February 24, 2005, at 17:03:03
In reply to Re: silence » alexandra_k, posted by lonelygal2 on February 24, 2005, at 7:40:12
" also, i don't think i have a right to be upset. i should be fine."
LG - this has been a big issue for me too - sort of like I'm not entitled to my pain or my illness. My childhood was too normal; no one abused me, there's not much documented history of mental illness in my family, I'm in a stable family situation now etc etc. And even if I can understand why I came to be so depressed in the first place, I can't quite forgive myself for not getting over it.
When my T has tried to provide me with some answers, they've all sounded like flimsy excuses to me.
But focusing on your lack of entitlement is a little bit of a red herring. Daisy's right - your feelings are your feelings and if they are your reality, you have to deal with them not dismiss them. It's also pretty much the nature of the beast that we tend to place value judgements on our feelings.
I also think that the fact that you're in so much pain now is evidence enough that ignored pain doesn't go away, at least not forever.
mair
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