Posted by Dinah on March 1, 2005, at 20:15:54
In reply to Needing comfort, posted by Shortelise on March 1, 2005, at 13:23:19
Sometimes those thoughts are just daydreams to me, a thought of possible escape. The more you fight those thoughts, the stronger they're likely to be and the more power they'll have on you.
Can you just accept them in yourself? My therapist has even started doing that with me. Not if I'm clearly in distress of course, and certainly not if the thoughts move into urges. But other times, he'll just note that the thoughts seem to bring comfort to me. Nonjudgmentally. I think that's a part of DBT training isn't it?
Your mother was wrong to talk that way in front of you. But sometimes mothers do their best, and their best isn't all that good. I've got a mother who was both great and horrible. I've managed to emotionally divorce her, but I think I've lost a lot that was good about me when I learned to do that.
I'm sorry you're feeling rotten right now. There seems to an epidemic of that lately. And it's not at all self indulgent to ask for what you need.
poster:Dinah
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