Posted by Dinah on March 3, 2005, at 3:43:53
In reply to Re: Smart clients makes difficult ones » daisym, posted by Toph on March 3, 2005, at 0:51:46
Well, at the moment smart is very much from what I feel, so I appreciate that idea.
You guys wouldn't know me in therapy, though. I am childishly open and direct with my emotions, if unbelievably tenacious. I think it's the tenacity that makes me difficult. In some ways, I guess I am still like that blind puppy. I know what I want, and I'm singleminded about getting it. Intellect has very little to do with what goes on in therapy, and appeals to intellect fall well short there. Which probably also makes me difficult. I take in what he says, and I process it later. And I probably intellectualize later. But in there, it's very direct. I suppose my lifelong ability to figure out what others are feeling kicks in, along with my instantaneous reflex to zig and zag to be pleasing and acceptable to my parents. But that's all going on in the background. In the foreground is a trusting and open, sometimes playful, sometimes sullen and stubborn, puppy.
I think I use Babble a lot to defuse that intensity. To make light of him, and what happens there, or to share the good stuff perhaps. Definitely to make light of what happens there, and subtly put him back in his proper place. Because intellectually I realize a lot about him that I just don't feel in therapy. And I guess I think it's important to never lose sight of that.
Toph, you wouldn't recognize me. The puppy with the therapist/mommy.
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