Posted by Aphrodite on March 9, 2005, at 15:54:44
In reply to Re: Going to the scene of the crime . . . » Aphrodite, posted by Shortelise on March 9, 2005, at 14:52:01
> Aphrodite,
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> It sounds like you are trying to take care of your T. It's his job to help you. He wants it that way. If he feels that going to that place with you is the best way, that means that's what he thinks is best for you, and it's his job to do what is best for you.I ALWAYS take care of him, as I take care of everyone in my life. This is frustrating to him -- he always snaps that I need to trust him that he knows what he is doing. I lament that I'll use up all his generosity and he'll be burned out when I *really* need him, and he replies that I really need him now, and he said, "I'm so far away from burnout I don't know what to say." Later, he told me that he was trying to figure out what the opposite of burnout was, and he said that he settled on being at peace with the amount of time/care he gives me. That was comforting. (But I still want to help him back off from me:)
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> Or is it that you are afraid of feeling too beholden to him?
This is true -- the lopsided, one-way nature of therapy is just something I'll never be cool with. This would tip those scales off any chart!>
> I'd like to put my hand on your shoulder, just lightly, and keep it there while you go through these things. A little ShortAngel all your own!
>Oh, how very sweet!!! I already feel it, ShortE. Can you go on the walk, too? (On my shoulder, in spirit of course!) Thank you!
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