Posted by Pfinstegg on March 21, 2005, at 11:39:58
In reply to been awhile....., posted by Jadah on March 20, 2005, at 16:10:05
I'm very glad you came back to tell us what has evolved for you. I know you are in a very different position from most of us posting here, and I know, for myself, that the sexual desire and longings I've had for my therapist get talked about (sometimes it seems like we have to talk about them forever!), but the result is always a calming down of those feelings and a certainty that they will never be acted upon. It doesn't make them go away, entirely, but it keeps me focussed on my own separate future. Even though your experience is out of the range of what most of us have experienced, there are clearly some really good things which have happened- feeling so safe and loved, so understood and cared for. This seemed to have occurred both when you were having a sexual relationship, and afterwards. No-one should argue with making such wonderful personal strides towards a full emotional and sexual life. I hope you'll be able to tell us at some point that these gains are truly yours, and can be taken outside of this relationship so that you can have your own rewarding and joyful life separately, as you both know now that it cannot be together..
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