Posted by Dinah on April 22, 2005, at 20:04:01
In reply to you love T but does he what does he say to you?, posted by looking4hope on April 22, 2005, at 13:37:54
He frequently says he cares about me. He said once that he meant the same thing, more or less, by that as I did when I said I love him because he's my therapist/mommy.
He's said that I do have the ability to hurt him, which to me is identical with caring for someone. I don't know if it's identical for him.
He is often really careful to include his other clients when he talks about any feelings toward me. "I care for you, I care for all my clients. I couldn't be effective for people I don't care for, and they usually don't stay long."
But since I pitched a fit about the fact that if he cares about all his clients the same way he does about me, it must mean that ten years of fighting for relationship meant squat, he's also free with telling me that his relationship with me is different from his relationship with his other clients by virtue of longevity and hard work. Since that's a relatively impersonal reason to be special, I take it the way it's intended to be taken, I think. As a tribute to hard work, not a declaration of personal feelings.
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