Posted by Dinah on May 26, 2005, at 9:40:33
In reply to Re: Approximate relationships » alexandra_k, posted by Tamar on May 26, 2005, at 9:14:03
> I’m not sure I’d say yes even to the second. I’m not convinced that feeling loved by the therapist has much to do with paying a fee. I think it’s about an emotional investment rather than a financial one. You can buy the services of a therapist but there’s no guarantee you’re going to feel loved (or be loved).
I absolutely agree. I even talked to my therapist once. I told him that I thought it would be rude of me to want him to like me or care about me. Because I was paying him to be there for specified time and in a specified context. But that any feelings he felt toward me or any of his patients were his, and weren't guaranteed with the fee. I think that was when my therapist started to have genuine fondness for me. Or somewhere in that time frame when we were struggling with that overarching concept.
Probably because that's when I started exhibiting my emotional investment in the relationship, and he started investing emotionally himself.
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