Posted by Jazzed on June 3, 2005, at 21:09:48
In reply to Daisy and others....., posted by messadivoce on June 3, 2005, at 13:14:46
> How do you handle father's day?
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> My dad and I have a pretty good relationship now. I think he's forgotten the trauma of my childhood. I haven't. It still lurks and makes me keep my emotional distance from him.
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> How can I be genuine but not lie?
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> I wish I could give my ex-T a father's day card.
Why can't you get your T a card that says you're like a father to me? Or thinking of you on father's day? It seems like a nice gesture.As far as handling father's day, I don't know if you have to see him or not, but I used to just send my dad an unemotional card. I did the same with my mom. It was actually more difficult to find one that wasn't dripping with emotion, which I didn't feel, so I wouldn't buy.
Now, my in-laws have quit buying b'day presents for their kids, so I don't send gifts. They're not my parents so what the heck do I care?! If they don't care enough about their son to send him a b'day gift, I sure don't care enough about my MIL to send a gift. I like my FIl, but can't play favs, oh well....
Jazzy
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