Posted by Daisym on June 16, 2005, at 10:15:54
In reply to Re: weird T behavior, gardengirl are you there? » Jazzed, posted by Dinah on June 16, 2005, at 7:52:32
I think I agree with All Done -- he is probably giving you some space so you don't feel on the hot seat. Sex is probably one of the most frequent things that get talked about in therapy. I was really surprised when I read in "In Session" that women thought they couldn't talk about it, or that their therapists didn't want to talk about it.
Something to think about would be why you've labeled yourself as bold (I think you are brave) and why you think it is too much for him. It would probably be a beneficial discussion because I hear you saying he reassured you that no subject is off limits in therapy but you are still sort of worrying about his response and whether you've overstepped or not. Do you feel the need to do therapy "right"? (I do.) Are you trying to read him, guess at his thinking, instead of asking him, "what are you thinking?" If so, why? What does it mean for you to be able to gage people correctly? (For me, it means I gage my safety with them.) And, are you worried that if you DO embarrass your therapist, or make him upset, or uncomfortable or even angry, that you will lose him?
I might be way off here and reading my own stuff into your post. But I have this tendency to try to take care of my therapist which can mean avoiding certain subjects. He doesn't let me, he calls me on it every time, so now I notice when I start doing it. (I say things like, "I'm hurting, but don't worry, I'll get over it." His response is usually "why don't you think I can help with the hurt? Is it too much for me?")
Learning to not make assumptions about people and their responses to you is something I'm working on. Just something to think about.
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