Posted by cricket on June 17, 2005, at 10:28:47
In reply to Re: feeling special, posted by Jazzed on June 16, 2005, at 22:25:55
Hi Jazzy,
I understand the desire to feel special and I think if he ever gave me the least hint that I could possibly be special I would very much want it too. I guess that's a part of human nature.
But I think after 3 years, I can say fairly conclusively that I am not special and will not ever be special to him. And I don't think it's anything against me, it's just the way he is, the way he does therapy, the way he sees the world.
I don't have to ask if he misses me because I know he doesn't. It's not part of our relationship.
I have struggled with this in some ways. Certainly reading other's posts here at Babble. where many of you are very obviously special to your Ts, has made me question my own therapist's efficacy. And as some here know, I have struggled with terminating, finding another T, etc.
But now I am just beginning to see that there might be some advantages to not being "special". It certainly is more freeing. Also, I know that I am not capable of hurting him.
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