Posted by daisym on June 20, 2005, at 0:41:42
In reply to Women’s things (****possible trigger****), posted by Tamar on June 19, 2005, at 16:28:12
Do you like and trust your OB/GYN? If not, look for another one. If so, can you tell him/her that these exams trigger you due to abuse in your childhood? I've had the same (female) MD for 17 yrs and I told just over a year ago. She said she guessed (she delivered two of my kids) but didn't want to pry. She has always been really good at telling me what she was going to do before she did it and she is very, very gentle.
You should be able to have all three things done at the same time. They go together. I think the idea of a tranquilizer is a good one. You also need a breast exam...
Do the breathing you learned for birth. Ask the nurse to stay and hold your hand. That way you won't feel so vulnerable and alone. Do something completely different after the appointment, don't mimic the aftermath of the abuse -- like showering or bathing or sleeping. Keep these things as separate as you can.
It is really important to take care of your health. Having problems in this area will be so much more tramatic than having the exams. Please, do it for your baby. I can't tell you how many women I've worked with that skipped postpartum exams and ended up with problems.
I'll stay with you in spirit, OK? I'm a really good birth coach, so this would be a piece of cake!
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