Posted by pinkeye on July 3, 2005, at 21:25:02
My recent realization is that no amount of therapy or insight into ourselves, is really enough to make us happy.
I am a perfect example -I have really really good insight into myself, I can almost findout what motivates each of my actions and feelings. And nowadys I can answer all the questions about "why I am the way I am " - like how each of my feelings directly relate to how I was brought up etc.
But it is not enough.. In fact, too much of insight is really not that good - it makes me feel worse.
I am beginning to think you cannot really ever achieve happiness by being in therapy for a life time even.
Happiness comes only from meditation, doing things, seeing movies, experiencing positive things, having good relationships, praying etc.
Beyond a point, there really is no need for developing more insight.. It is probably good to develop some insight and identify some patterns, but really trying to dig it all out so to speak in the hope of cleaning it up does not work. It really makes it worse. (atleast for me).
A better thing to do would have been to develop some insight, but instead focus on doing lot of other positive things.
I just thought I would share - in case somebody is trying to break their head in trying to understand themselves and wishing they understood themselves better.. it really doesn't matter too much. to a certain extent it helps, but you don't have to udnersand everything about yourself.
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