Posted by deborah anne lott on July 31, 2005, at 14:24:06
In reply to Re: Lott: Question about recovering from transference » deborah anne lott, posted by Susan47 on July 29, 2005, at 0:41:16
Hi Susan,
You commented that it isn't helpful to you to think of therapy love as being "real" or to consider that a client might always be a "little bit in love" with her therapist. I guess by a "little bit" I meant the way that I can still feel fondly towards the boy -- I can still see him clearly in my mind -- that I had a crush on -- in kindergarten. Lee A. he was blonde and tall and sweet and his voice reminded me of the voice of bunny rabbit on Captain Kangaroo. Waaaay too much information!!!! Anyway, I meant that kind of wistful nostalgia -- not fullblown pain. Whatever helps you to resolve your feelings and get past them is what's good for you. Everyone is different. I guess what I was trying to get at is that it might not be possible or healthy to feel nothing for someone you've loved. And a little bit of remembered love might not be so terrible that you have to run away from all your memories of what was good about the therapy. But the most important thing is to trust yourself and what you need to get on with your life.
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