Posted by cricket on August 24, 2005, at 8:04:06
In reply to Re: Complete Reversal - Long » cricket, posted by Tamar on August 23, 2005, at 20:33:47
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> However, I still have the sense (from what you said) that he’s holding back a little. Maybe part of it is that he doesn’t want to scare the little girl. And I wonder if another part of the equation is that he wants to take time to make sure he’s ready. Maybe he’s both excited about the potential and a little anxious about what it will mean for your therapy. I suspect he knows he’ll have to be very careful with the little girl. I often think therapy involves trust on both sides, and perhaps he’s trying to be absolutely certain that he trusts you… and that your trust in him won’t be misplaced, when it comes.
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Yes, Tamar. I think you might be onto something there.It's painful to think through. For my part, I haven't been a patient that inspires trust. I tell him very little. He knows next to nothing about my day to day life. No one, including my husband, knows I see him. Therefore, he has no contact information for me. I consistently arrive 15 - 20 minutes late for every session and am ready to bolt at the least nod.
So if therapy involves feelings on his part (and I'm not sure it does) but then yeah I can see that he might hesitate to risk them. Is that what you mean by being able to trust me?
But I think I can be trusted. I think I won't flee. I think I might be ready to tell him a bit more. But how? I can't risk too much too quick on my part either or I will shut down.
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