Posted by 10derHeart on September 3, 2005, at 0:23:45
In reply to Re: Two days now, posted by daisym on September 2, 2005, at 23:48:43
Hi Dinah,
I agree with Daisy. If he's too busy, he probably just won't read the email right away. Of course, that might bother you more....
I still think you should go ahead. Even in the midst of all this h*ll, it seems you have a reasonable sense of boundaries in tact (amazingly - I wouldn't!). Just don't be too reasonable and deprive yourself! One email a day is hardly too many, IMO, under the circumstances. I think your own brand of steadiness will keep coming through for him in email, and perhaps it'll be healing for you to reciprocate some of the caring he's given you in a way you've never imagined.
Email therapy can and does work. Three+ months for me in 2004 and it was absolutely my life preserver. Okay, so I'm biased...
I am thinking about you so often. I even wrote my ex-T. about you yesterday (very generic references, of course - no identifying stuff) mentioning how an added layer to all this can be the trauma when both client and T. are part of a disaster simultaneously. He said that was a good point, and that although he fortunately has no friends and family affected, he would pray for a good outcome for my friends. See, Dinah, you have a pdoc you've never met including your family in his prayers.
Ex-T also mentioned that what he's learned from much work with PTSD patients (vets) is that what helps them during and after events, really is dwelling on and seeing all the goodness going on amidst the horror. It may sound too simplistic, but he said he's found this to be true, over and over.
((((Dinah and family and your T., of course))))
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