Posted by daisym on September 12, 2005, at 20:47:02
In reply to Re: Why crying isn't okay, posted by jammerlich on September 12, 2005, at 9:08:34
It isn't that unusual to like or love the very person who abused you. Because often there is a cycle that involved giving and love and other positive things. The person who didn't save you, well, that is a whole other matter.
I'm sure it is different for every person. I love my dad, he was my primary caretaker when I was little (0-3) and I was "special" in ways beyond the csa. He treated me like an adult and I idolized him. And feared and hated him too. But the tenderness and physical comfort I needed as a child all came from him too, so I was really confused. Now, as an adult, I see many things about my dad I like and I have absolutely separated him into good dad/bad dad.
My mother is someone I totally admire but I don't think she likes me and I know I've disappointed her by not living up to my potential. So I find it harder to be around her than my dad. Go figure...
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