Posted by orchid on September 28, 2005, at 18:22:37
In reply to Re: Daisy?, posted by daisym on September 28, 2005, at 0:49:50
Hi Daisy,
I am sorry to hear about your work. I know it can be extremely hard to focus on work when you have other mental stressors.
I know you do some business related to children's well being, but not sure what exactly it is. But maybe there are ways to save your business and reduce your stress - together? If you can't do everything yourself, perhaps you can hire a consultant or manager? That might ease you off the stress and perhaps even turn the business around. You can do some other cost cutting measures - like moving to a less expensive part of the city, or moving to less luxury area for the business, cutting back on the travel and accommodation that you provide for the staff and do the work through phones. These are some general ideas, but maybe if you think more on how to cut costs, some relevant idea might come to your mind.
I know you are going through intense pain about your past childhood issues as well as your attachment to your therapist. I don't have a solid idea of whether cutting back sessions would be good or increasing would be good. Also different therapists view attachment differently. Mine never encouraged any attachment whatsoever. Your's seem to encourage it a lot. And I don't know which is the best approach. Maybe ask your therapist what he would suggest so that while you get better in the long term, if he can think of something to ease your pain in the short term as well. Getting better in the long term is definitely good, and might be worth going through a little more pain in the short term, but I know you have been going through intense pain for atleast 2 years now, and recently, your romantic attachment to your therapist is making it worse. And I think it might take a couple of years more atleast to maybe fully heal. So if your therapist can think of a way to help you cope with day to day life for now, in addition to helping you work on your long term issues, maybe it will be helpful.
Take Care
Orchid.
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