Posted by daisym on November 9, 2005, at 19:45:17
In reply to going to say...but**trigger**, posted by B2chica on November 9, 2005, at 12:27:27
You need to do what you need to do. Write it, scream it, whisper it... and as many times as you want/need to. You don't need to protect those who hurt you. Your hurt doesn't diminish anyone else's hurt, there are no comparisons.
Asking the question: "did the REALLY happen?" is understandable. We were conditioned to not believe our own instincts or feelings. We were told it doesn't hurt, or you like this, or you deserve this...how can we trust ourselves now?
Strange that you should post this today, because I asked again today, "what happened was bad, right? And it did happen -- it isn't just a nightmare? And you believe me, right?" I look straight into his eyes and he never flinches, he just says, "yes, it was bad. Yes I believe you. And yes, I'm sorry, this really happened to you." I always feel sort of stupid asking those questions, like I should already know, but I NEED to -- some part of me needs him to confirm that I have good reason to feel this bad.
Hang in there. You are doing the hard stuff. I'm proud of you and here to listen.
Hugs from me,
Daisy
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