Posted by daisym on November 13, 2005, at 17:24:11
In reply to Re: Knowing and not knowing... » Pfinstegg, posted by Annierose on November 13, 2005, at 15:17:45
Do you think therapists think we must have those conversations to ever fully heal? I wonder sometimes. I bring it up occasionally -- wondering what it would be like to talk about it. My sister did and got shot down completely and fully. My mom didn't believe her (she asked me, a year ago when she told me, why would she say such a thing?) and my dad denied it fully. My sister says she was "just" touched a lot -- of course she was only 5 when he moved away. I still feel bad that I couldn't jump in and back her up -- but no one told me all this took place until last year.
I ask "why did this happen?" a lot -- and my therapist commented that perhaps I need to let go of wanting to know why because it was an intellectual exercise that still keeps me from fully feeling it all. And there is no real answer anyway, is there?
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