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Re:((((((((10derheart))))))

Posted by alexandra_k on November 16, 2005, at 2:06:37

In reply to Just for now...., posted by 10derHeart on November 16, 2005, at 1:22:17

I'm sorry hon.
:-(


> This has to do with his policy of allowing unlimited email between sessions.

Hmm. Thats a funny policy...
To allow / encourage 'unlimited' emails / phonecalls / whatever. Because... I think... When 'unlimited' is involved. Well... Burnout is imminent...

> I can't go into the details yet, I'm just too upset. Let's just say this has been super-painful for me, as I am so very attached and have so relied on the emails for stability and comfort between sessions.

Yeah.
(((10derheart)))
:-(

> I think for him, too, it's bad, 'cause he's said he's "shocked" he felt he had to do something unilateral like this, when his way is to let clients take the lead in changes 99.9% of the time. Poor guy...

Hmm... Maybe he needs to think about setting some reasonable limits... So he doesn't have to do the 'unilateral' thing...

but, I'm so furious and hurt it's hard for me to deal with his feelings.

:-(
Yeah.

> I told him vry bluntly how angry and confused I was, and how much this totally s*cks for me. He looked very sad himself.

Yeah.
Fair enough.

> I respect his firmness in the face of my obvious distress, and I trust his judgement, but trust in other areas has been (temporarily?) ruptured because he encouraged something I wanted and needed (I thought) and now has stopped it midstream.

Yeah... I think I'd be pissed off and majorly hurt too. I mean... He must have been feeling not so good about the emails for a while... For it to get to the point that he says he needs to stop them altogether. So... He should have said something before now about not having 'unlimited' emailing. But maybe... Some sort of 'limited' email contact.

:-(
:-(

I'm sorry

 

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