Posted by orchid on November 16, 2005, at 21:45:37
In reply to My Homework, posted by daisym on November 16, 2005, at 19:44:42
(((Daisy)))
Sexual abuse by a kid's own father is the worst of all forms of abuse. There will be extreme amount of confusion and varied kind of feelings in the child's mind.
Please allow yourself the highest amount of understanding and empathy you can ever think of for anyone. You deserve it.
It is really really hard for a child to understand what is happening, if it is right or wrong, if it is wrong - how wrong it is, why her mother doesn't protect her, why do I like it myself etc.
When you are grown up, you tend to view you as a child as how you are now. It is much easier for an adult to understand things and say no. But not for a child.
My mother just told me couple of days back that I pratically never said no to anything when I was a child. I did everythign my parents asked me to. She thought it was a good trait. While I realized how horrible it was.
You must also have been confused and emotionally manipulated by your dad in so many different subtle ways which you probably won't even remember now to accept what he is doing to you. I came back and am staying in my parents how and am realizing now that even if I had wished, I couldn't have said no to anything in my family. Perhaps you should sometime do that. Go back and stay with your family and you might realize how helpless a child would be in that family.
(((Daisy)))
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