Posted by antigua on November 22, 2005, at 10:41:55
In reply to Too sensitive -- need advice, posted by daisym on November 22, 2005, at 0:44:54
Daisy, Im glad to see you're back.I was worried about you.
Exploring your relationship w/your husband is important, probably especially so right now. Tking ownership of your share of it doesn't make it black or white--your T is still on your side. Maybe he's just trying to pull a more complete picture out of the relationship so you can see how you can make the relationship more of the way you want it to be, or to make changes that benefit you.
I don't think it's about your husband at all, it's all about you. You haven't done anything wrong, it's just the twists and turns your relationship has taken as you and he (and all of us) have gone through life. THings that worked when we were younger don't always work anymore.
But it's still all about you and what you want. So tell your T what you want out of the relationship. I really think that's what he's trying to pull out of you. And to compare what you feel you get w/your T that you don't get in real life.
Have a happy thanksgiving. Hope your boys will all be home.
best,
antigua
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