Posted by Shortelise on December 9, 2005, at 2:01:53
In reply to I'm stuck in childhood (ramblings), posted by Deneb on December 8, 2005, at 14:26:17
What would happen ifyou told your parents that you don't feel you have the skills to live independently and asked them to help you by giving you some responsibility at home? Things like paying bills, getting groceries, making appointments, calling the plumber? It sounds silly, but that's a lot of what being an adult is about. It's not about knowing what to say, it's about getting dinner, paying the light bill, taking the bus or getting you car fixed.
The world is scary. But aren't you a part of it? You go to school, get to and from school, buy a bag of chips when you want one, buy shoes, go to the library, don't you? THat's the real world. I wish it were something more exciting, but it's not, not really. It's mostly trying to get from one place to another without tripping over the furniture, as a French poet once put it (Georges Perec).
Part of a parent's job is to help us learn the little skills we need to make it all easier. I hope you have parents who are willing to do that.
I didn't feel like a woman until I was 30. I was out there, lived on my own for many years, was as street wise as they come, but although I called myself a woman, I didn't really feel I was mature enough to deserve it.
ShortE
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