Posted by muffled on December 13, 2005, at 15:44:33
In reply to Re: WONDERFUL!!!!!!! » happyflower, posted by B2chica on December 13, 2005, at 13:35:37
> thnx HF that's nice to hear. i was really doubting what i did, it makes me feel so needy. but the sad fact is...i do need him. i still hate needing him but today i'm able to push all that away. mostly cuz i'm afraid when the little one comes near (she makes me feel so uncomfortable) or the teen pops up from nowhere. she's a crazy little thing.
***I know this was happyflowers reply but I just wanted to be able to read it, cuz really its such an amazing post to me.
1. that apparently you were able to accept HF niceness and take it in?
2. That you can say you need your T. (Just this weekend I sent my T a fax that said "I don't need her, I don't need anybody", so you moving ahead girl. apparently I'm not :(, but I can learn stuff from you. If you can do it then fuckit so can I, right?
3. That you are able to identify that the little one makes you uncomfortable.
4. And then it made me smile when you said your teen was a 'crazy little thing'. Cuz that sounded very accepting of you towards her. And sometimes I think its just what those inside ones need.So, while I was worried that you were freaking out and might get carried away re: si, I was also smiling like crazy cuz I think its so wonderful for your young ones to be able to come out. My kid was just freaking out with happiness for your guys.
I guess for me, the thing of it is, is that sometimes my inside ones can be a little wild and the emotion sh*t scares the living crap outta me, ultimately, I(who I consider Adult me) am in control. I CAN stop the others once I recognize whats going on.
And the thing for me too, it was hard for me to realize that my inside kid, IS a kid. Like really. I goto treat her as such. Teach her whats not appropriate behavior etc. I kept thinking I'm an adult so really she is too. But she is NOT. Shes most definately a kid. and I'm doing much better withrelating to her now.
Well, long winded, sorry.
Hope you do many long winded posts so I can learn from you too.
Thanks,
Happy for you,
Muffly
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