Posted by Anneke on December 14, 2005, at 11:02:39
In reply to not bad enough for T??, posted by B2chica on December 14, 2005, at 9:14:07
B2---
I am constantly thinking that what I experienced isn't "bad enough" to warrant therapy and that my therapist must be thinking "what a wimp...if she only knew what I hear about the rest of the day". But of course that's the way I was raised to interpret those experiences....
From what I read in the post below, however, the things you experienced are more than "enough" to be in therapy by anyone's standards. And, I try to remind myself that if I'm reading your story and saying, "God, that was awful...I feel so badly for B2....how can she doubt herself as to how bad that was?"...then probably if you read mine, you would probably say the same thing. It's so much easier to validate someone else's pain, isn't it?
And, for me at least, questioning the validity of my experiences is simply another way of minimizing them and taking me back to the familiar "it's not so bad" space. And, for what it's worth, those are the times that my little girl and teenager get particularly ticked off....and rightfully so. It's as if they're saying, "hey, we were denied our voice about this once....you're not getting away with that now!"
Don't know if any of this will resonate with you...just my 2 cents worth....Anneke
poster:Anneke
thread:588952
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20051210/msgs/588996.html