Posted by Rigby on December 15, 2005, at 14:09:40
In reply to Re: Curiosity About Therapist/Ending Therapy » Rigby, posted by Tamar on December 15, 2005, at 3:19:19
Hi Tamar,
I'm with you on this--don't really think the bi label works for me either. Not sure why it doesn't but I just don't feel comfortable "wearing" it.
> Yeah. I had a long relationship with a woman before I met my husband and although I’ve been married for close to ten years I still have feelings for women occasionally. I don’t know how to label myself (I think the term bisexual doesn’t really fit me), but I definitely notice women sometimes. I tend to find it goes in phases.Yeah, I do wanna know. And darn it I don't too!!! ACK! I'm gonna have to get a tad bit clearer before my appointment tonight--I'd really like to try and take a stab at this topic with her.
> Ah. So it’ll be hard to address it if it makes you cringe. Sometimes people don’t like knowing personal things about their therapists. But I can really understand wanting to know. I suppose you must wonder how her experience is similar to yours, and how it’s different.How long have you guys been married? I think I'd clock my boyfriend if he kissed another woman. I never ever thought: 1. I'd have a BOYfriend and 2. that I'd feel so possessive but hey, life's funny that way!
> Well, I was standing right there. If they’d been kissing in secret I might have had something to worry about! But yeah, I’m pretty secure about my husband. I know that he’ll always come home to me, so if he occasionally kisses someone else it doesn’t really bother me, as long as it’s casual. If he fell in love with someone else, that would be another matter!I've definitely talked with my boyfriend about this process. He's not anxious about me reverting because there's so much love between us. When I tell him how much I love him he says he knows--not in a stuck-up way but in a way that says he really understands me.
> It’s very true that coming out in reverse is somewhat unusual and there aren’t many people to share experiences with. Is it something you’ve talked about much with your partner? Is he at all anxious that you might ‘revert’ one day?
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