Posted by ClearSkies on December 15, 2005, at 20:29:28
In reply to Re: Feeling very depressed today » ClearSkies, posted by crushedout on December 15, 2005, at 19:13:46
I guess I've always felt it's a doubled edged sword of feeling things deeply, and feeling things TOO deeply. If I really didn't give a hoot about what people say to me, I don't know if I'd bother speaking to anyone at all.
I've thought a lot about people I've met who really don't seem to care what others say to them, and I'm not sure I really like or trust them.
But not letting ourselves to be *defined* by what others say is difficult when that's what we've done since we can remember. Looking for validation from our parents, say; not getting that, and so looking to anyone, anyone else for that acknowledgement of our existence. And we attached perhaps too much meaning into what people said to us.
OK. I think I've gone a bit far in this, but I really do want to get at why I care so much about what others say to me, and I want to get to where I'm listening and taking it in, but not ruminating on it.
CS
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