Posted by joslynn on December 29, 2005, at 17:15:45
In reply to Help me please, re: ex-T, posted by Susan47 on December 25, 2005, at 13:27:37
I have had the problem also of not being able to let go of someone emotionally. I haven't done the things you mentioned, but I understand the feelings. One thing I know is that letting go frees YOU to live, to be open to what God/the universe/whatever you believe in has to offer.
It's too bad he won't just block your number, because that would probably be a favor to you, actually,
At this point, I would suggest you view this as an addiction. That is what I had to do with someone I had a little rendezvous with, who was bad news and lived in my neighborhood. I had to look at it the same way an alcoholic has to view booze. First I read up on everything I could about love addiction.
It got to the point where I would put a gold star on my calendar every day I avoided the coffee shop where he hung out, etc. I started shopping at a completely different grocery store. Like many people who kind of pull you in with charm at first, he was quite happy to continue the intrigue on a toxic level, but that's not what I wanted.
Seriously, type in love addiction to google. Reward yourself every time you don't call.
Maybe he was emotionally seductive in the beginning, but that doesn't change the fact that he is not emotionally available at all to you now.
If you view him as a toxic substance that you are allergic to, which you just have to avoid, that may take some of the emotions out of it??
Good luck. It is hard but worth it.
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