Posted by Sabrina_0805 on February 16, 2006, at 10:54:09
On a work (family owned business that I administrate) related issue, I became very, very angry with and at my husband tonight (as I so often have over the last 8 months).
My husband became as angry with me and almost refused to talk further with me as I was near tears and shaking like a leaf. Anyway, I somehow managed to contain myself and when things cooled down a bit and we were again talking more calmly, I rationalized that my anger was borne out of fear and listed 3 exact and very real fears.
It was only when I was done that I thought, "Hey - I just did something good!!" I actually identified where my anger came from and managed to keep it in check because of that.
I am rambling here, but for once I did not end the argument in a crying, hysterical heap. I calmed down quite quickly. And I think it was because I identified whilst still being angry, exactly why I was angry.
I don't know .. but I feel as though I have achieved something.
Thanks for letting me share.
Sabrina
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