Posted by Dinah on February 27, 2006, at 10:19:25
In reply to Would you be offended?, posted by Dinah on February 26, 2006, at 15:07:37
I must confess that my first thought was to review whether I brushed my teeth before leaving home, and took a bath, and used deoderant.
He can be so dense sometimes. He knows that I'm upset because I don't feel him present, that effectively I don't feel close to him. Maybe I did subconsciously move closer to try to approximate the feelings of emotional closeness I was actually wanting. So it shouldn't have been tough for him to anticipate, never mind understand in retrospect, why I was upset, aside from the general societal understandings that someone moving physically further away on purpose because you're too close is a negative statement about how intimate you wish to feel, or about insensitivity on their part about violating personal space boundaries. (And he even knows I'm especially sensitive about that because my mother is a huge personal space violator and I've seen people backing away from her all my life.)
I *do* think that while in some ways he monitors what he says with me, based on past experience, that he also feels comfortable enough to say things I can't imagine he says with new clients. So I do pay a bit of a price for being a Jessica to him.
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