Posted by TherapyGirl on February 28, 2006, at 13:16:38
In reply to Re: i can't do it anymore » TherapyGirl, posted by asmita on February 28, 2006, at 13:06:20
> 4 years is a long time. maybe he was pushing me because we don't have that much time...it's max 2 years at this place. sometimes i'd come in and we'd just sit staring at each other or at the walls and he might say something like, it's up to me to decide what i want to talk about and he won't pressure me. other times he encouraged me to talk. and sometimes he just seemed like he'd given up on me, started falling asleep, etc.
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> i don't know if i can blame him for not figuring me out when he barely knows anything about me besides the bare facts. i think he resents me for not trusting him after all this time...and because of that he can be insensitive. like today when he was saying all this stuff about reciprocal relationships, referring to me and him, saying that if i don't put anything in, i won't get anything out of therapy. he seems to think i go in there and sit silently just for fun and games. he should know that if i really couldn't give a sh!t and wasn't willing to put any effort in, i wouldn't have started crying when he said next week would be our last session. i was a real mess when i left. i hate that it all had to end this way.I hear you, Asmita. And I understand your frustration and his -- I'm just wondering if there is some other answer for you, instead of his ending the therapy. It sounds like you want to stick it out with him? If so, is there some other way you can try to communicate with him? Writing, art?
And you're right -- four years is a long time. But it was the right amount of time for me.
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