Posted by annierose on April 10, 2006, at 5:40:36
In reply to out of lurkdown...T1 v. T2 dilemma/painful goodbye, posted by RainDrops on April 9, 2006, at 22:11:42
Sometimes we need to say good-bye to people in our lives that we still care for, but have gotten all we can from them. In this situation, although it is such an intimate relationship, it is still a professional one.
After 8 years, you may need to move forward. I understand the worry about hurting T1's feelings, the commitment you feel towards her, but this is all about you and your needs. You must put yourself first in this situation. T1 will take care of herself. And will be available to you if you changed your mind (or mostly likely will).
Question, have you discussed this with T2. Does she see private patients that are no longer @ the treatment facility? I wouldn't rule out seeing her. You must trust your gut here.
Several people on this board have switched Ts after years of therapy. Hopefully they will share their experience in making this change. I believe all that made changes, because they sought them out (i.e. not terminated), are happy they did so.
Good Luck. I know this is a difficult decision.
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