Posted by fairywings on April 20, 2006, at 16:43:49
In reply to Re: need support and suggestions please » fairywings, posted by LadyBug on April 20, 2006, at 11:36:26
Hi LB,
It sounds like you're doing well with getting on with your life, good for you! You deserve SO much more, and he doesn't deserve you!
You've done a good job with your kids - that's a huge accomplishment. Even though they might blame your T, maybe somewhere in the back of their minds they know. It's easier to blame someone else I guess.
My husband blames my T for making me realizing all of this - but my ex T did too, and people at his work warned me, so it can't just be my imagination. It's easier for him to blame my T than to face up to, and change, what he's doing.
I hope you get the job! And I hope you get alimony and child support - a great lawyer can be worth his weight in gold! My mom had one, and she came out smelling like a rose - other than the emotional devastation - which money can't mend. I think your nightmares say a lot about the damage.
If my husband will work on it, we might have a fighting chance. He's basically a good guy, just naive, and too trusting. And he's got to change not telling me things, or doing things that hurt me. You're right the deception hurts like h*ll.
I'm glad you feel the hug!
fw
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